#WinWin #leaders #takers #BoldMoves #BrazenMoves #browbeaters
The wisest among us will often advise their children, other family and friends that if you want something, go after it.
That only applies when the thing you want does not – or, at least, not yet – belong to someone else.
Sure, in that case, you can offer to buy what you want from the owner. But, the owner does not have to accept your offer, or can refuse to sell altogether.
Here is where honorable people take NO for an answer.
Others may try to find other ways to get what they want, even if someone else has it.
For example, they may try to take it by force. Usually, such measures do not end well for either party.
Or, they may try to browbeat the owner into selling or giving it to the browbeater. That likely would lead to a lot of back-and-forth negotiations that would likely prove unsuccessful for the browbeater.
But, what if the owner of the coveted item lets the browbeater use it as needed?
That’s an honorable gesture of goodwill and a good result for both sides.
In bargaining parlance, that a win-win, which is something for which most negotiators strive.
But, when the browbeater feels so entitled to the item – and generally strives for win-lose outcomes — a fight could be brewing.
As has been stated previously, real leaders give and get, but don’t take. Browbeaters are takers, and couldn’t care less about the outcome of the “giving” party.
Browbeaters don’t care about innocent people who may be affected by such a brazen move.
Takers are brazen. Leaders are bold. Bold moves produce good results for all concerned. Brazen moves generally favor only one side.
Leaders want everyone involved to be satisfied. Takers want only themselves satisfied.
So, are you a leader or a taker? Do you want good results for you at any cost, or do you want good results for all concerned?
If you’re a taker, do you sleep well at night, knowing that you won, but someone else lost?
If a sport is played fairly, there will be winners and losers. Losers usually congratulate winners, and winners usually congratulate losers on playing a good game.
In real life, there will be winners and losers. But, leaders strive to win fairly, and help others win as well.
A good lesson here is to go after what you want, without hurting others, whenever possible. If you get what you want, make sure you’ve gotten it fairly, with a lot of benefit – or, at least, minimal hurt — to others.
Better yet, always strive for win-wins, so others can share in your success.
Peter