#fighters #compromise #disagreements #DifferentViewpoints
“I will fight for YOU.”
Or, “I’m going to (pick one: Washington, D.C. or any state capital) to start a fight.”
These may be political slogans often thrown around. Of course, those who throw them around think potential voters admire fighters. And, fighters are often better in a political setting than, say, introverts.
But what they really mean is that they are going to fight for SOME of you.
Why? Some of the things they fight for are things some of their constituents don’t want.
Might a candidate be better to say they are going to work to get something done?
Of course, that doesn’t play as well as fighting words.
Government works best when those who represent us cut deals from which every side of the argument gets SOMETHING.
No one side may get everything, but every side gets something.
Such compromise has become a dirty word in many campaigns today. More candidates prefer to play to the extremes on either side, rather than the middle.
But the middle may be where the real action is. It’s certainly OK for someone to fight hard for principles. But, in the end, his or her principles may not fit all his or her constituents’ principles. Therefore, things get done when compromises are reached.
In any sort of relationship, one must understand others’ points of view. If his or her views conflict with the other person’s viewpoint, each viewpoint can be argued and debated. But, more often than not, there are some points of agreement.
Finding those points may be the secret sauce of compromise.
Compromise becomes the secret sauce of action. We expect action from those who represent us.
Think of the many friendships, or other relationships, you have. Do you ONLY relate to those with whom you agree on all things? Not likely. Most married couples don’t agree on everything. Therefore, compromise enters the relationship. You can like, or even love, someone who may not agree with you on all things.
If a person’s views don’t match yours, do you end the relationship? If you do, how does that make you feel as a person? How much respect do you have for the other person’s feelings or ideas?
In short, is the relationship more important to you than any opinions?
A great way to preserve relationships among those with differing opinions is to refrain from talking about things that will cause disagreements.
In politics, or many other relationships, that may not always be practical. Therefore, finding the things you all agree on becomes paramount.
Among friends, family etc., finding what you all enjoy discussing and sticking to those things can work wonders in preserving relationships.
In summary, compromise is not a dirty word. Diversity in thought can enhance everyone’s life. To quote an old adage, you CAN disagree without being disagreeable.
Peter